Lenten Day 14: BACK BITING, ABUSING AND JUDGING OTHERS
BACK BITING, ABUSING AND JUDGING OTHERS
Memory Verse: PSALM 15:3 ‘He that backbiteth not with his tongue nor doeth evil to his neighbor, nor taketh up a reproach against his neighbour’
BACKBITING is malicious talk about someone who is not present.
ABUSING is the improper usage or treatment of an entity, often to unfairly or improperly gain benefit.
JUDGING is forming an opinion or coming to a conclusion about an issue.
These attitudes are easily visible in any place where people exist as a community.
They all have to do with the way people perceive each other and as such respond to each other.
A general error that runs through all these vices is ignorance.
When a person is ignorant or oblivious of their own errors, it becomes easy to judge another person’s errors and maliciously talk about the person.
In that process, foul language cannot be missing.
This study will further look at the prevailing circumstances that produce these vices and how to make sure they are both prevented or stamped out of the church and our communities at large.
THE BACKBITING VICE
This usually begins to take place where people have compared themselves with others.
Even in their estimation, they fall short and thus presume that when they malign the other person that it would bring them some form of satisfaction especially when they have succeeded in assassinating the other person’s character and people begin to see them as evil.
It is a consequence of sustained gossip. Backbiting is intended to tear another person down.
This attitude is wicked in nature and a character of a very vicious personality. It is produced in a heart filled with ill-will, jealousy and bile.
THE ABUSE VICE
When a person engages in abusive language or attitude it means that such a person has no respect for people’s feelings and generally no respect for people at all.
It is a product of a very arrogant heart. When a person is abusive, such a person has a warped or overestimated perception of their self-worth. Such a person actually has a damaged self-esteem.
THE JUDGING VICE
When a person is prejudiced in nature, he will continuously make faulty examination of other people’s actions or inclinations.
This occurs especially when they are completely oblivious of their own inadequacies.
Coming to a conclusion about a person without the benefit of all the information of such a person is unwise. It breeds inaccurate evaluation and incurs pain on the judged.
DEALING WITH THE TRIPLE THREAT
The only solution to these vises is humility. Humility is the character of a genuinely born again child of God.
This is because, the Bible teaches that at the new birth experience that God removes the heart of stone and give a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26).
This is the circumcision of the heart. it is the radical transformation in the thinking process of a child of God.
It is formed from the truth that Christ paid the price for all humanity.
The believer earned nothing and therefore is boastful of nothing except Christ crucified.
Humility will help a believer understand that even he has his errors and as such has no moral justification to judge anyone.
This does not cause the believer to abdicate his responsibility of telling the truth and correcting an erring brother.
The issue of backbiting does not even arise for a heart of humility.
This is because it is devoid of offence and cannot even engage in Godless comparisons.
A heart filled with humility is also full of respect for other people and their feelings.
A humble heart cannot engage in abusive language.
This is because it has valued his neighbor better than they are as the Scripture teaches us.
So if any person must deal with these vices in their hearts, they must be born again.
They must spend time with the word of God and prayers as spiritual disciplines in order to renew their minds and unlearn the way of the world (Romans 12:1-2).